Who doesn’t want to be liked? The problem is when leaders are always nice in order to be liked. Being nice all the time means holding in negative feelings, tuning out your needs, quietly resenting others - and maybe occasionally exploding. The best leaders are not always nice. Kind? Yes. Friendly? Sure. Compassionate? Definitely. But nice? No. Nice leaders want to be liked so much that they don’t hold healthy boundaries. They avoid conflict and give in when they ought to take